Vincent Lister

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I bring people back to life, after the death of a loved one.

 

 

 

Vincent Lister
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Anger & Resentment


Anger is defined as a strong feeling of displeasure and, usually, of antagonism. Resentment, on the other hand, is persistent ill will.

Do you see the difference? Anger is that sudden emotion that overcomes us when something goes wrong, or we think something has gone wrong. You know, someone cuts us off in traffic and we're immediately angry, or someone is rude to us and our reaction is anger.

 

Anger turns into resentment when we allow the anger to become persistent. If, when we're cut off in traffic, we allow our anger to grow so we take some sort of destructive action, like chasing the offending driver, we're into resentment. If, when someone is rude, we let that anger simmer so we're having fantasies of revenge, we're dealing with resentment.

 

Anger is our (mostly) automatic response to a situation; we usually can't control the fact of our anger, but we can control how we behave when anger strikes. Resentment is really a choice - we've decided, on some level, or allowed ourselves to stay angry.

  • A resentment is always about what someone or something has done to us. 

  • A resentment keeps us feeling like a victim.

A more reasonable, effective and spiritual response is to accept at least some responsibility for what's happened - even if it's only accepting responsibility for letting anger build to resentment.


As soon as we accept responsibility, we're acting from our own power. As the resentment disappears, we either find the issue wasn't really important after all, or we can begin to take rational, self-supporting steps to remedy the situation.

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